Men and Boys

Despite, the popular portrayals of therapy in our culture, it is still common for many men to have difficulty beginning the therapeutic process. Men often do not see the benefit of talking about their feelings. They are accustomed to solving their own problems logically and pulling themselves up by their bootstraps.  Occupied with work and family they often do not maintain friendships and support systems that women utilize much more successfully.

Since men are often accomplished in their work lives, they will attempt to apply problem solving and business skills to the other facets of their lives. It can be frustrating to find out that such strategies do not work as well in these other areas. Men often find solace in potentially destructive ways; substance abuse, an extramarital affair, throwing themselves into work or an obsession with the Internet.

It is not uncommon for men to find their way to a therapist’s office only when they are convinced to by a spouse, a supervisor or by a situation (such as alcoholism) that gets out of control. Once in therapy, men may find reasons to leave quickly, such as impatience with the process, or a suddenly urgent work assignment. I have many years of experience in working with men, overcoming these obstacles, and helping them see the benefits of starting and remaining in therapy. Together we can understand the root causes and patterns that have been interfering in their personal lives.

The teenage and college years can be especially difficult for boys. Physical changes, academic pressures and social factors can all have an impact on the teenager’s development.  Such questions about identity and future goals are normal but this phase of life can sometimes lead to depression, substance abuse or risk taking behavior. Young people can be resistant to seeking help for what are common and treatable issues.

I have had great success in working with teenage and young men. If possible, it is best if the young person call me directly. If you are the parent of a young man who is reluctant to come to therapy please call me and I may be able to be of assistance.